REGRESSION - The one words a parent never wants to see in their child, her someone say or have to admit to it.
This
is when a child loses a skill they had once done. This summer we moved,
we took a break from appointments & schedules. I wanted to give the
boys time to adjust to the new house & town before introducing new
therapists & schools. I felt too much too soon would have been too
overwhelming for them & me. With no schedules, some days were good,
some bad & some I was wishing for bedtime by noon. I think the break
from schedules did do them some good overall. They enjoyed the mid-day
breaks to dance to loud music. Karl was interesting loving to dance,
loving the songs but at times would cover his ears because it was loud.
So he would be dancing while covering his ears with a big smile on his
face.
The down side to winging it was some regression took place,
mostly with Karl. Karl starting needing his chew tube again & his
behavior took a down fall. He hadn't used a chew tube for the better
part of eight months so it was a shocker when I found him walking around
with one. The hard part is I have not been able to find out what the
trigger is so I can redirect him. His level of frustration has been
intense, he will have trouble doing something and he gets frustrated,
when you try to help he gets real mad. So I am at a catch 22, I give him
two minutes to complete his task & if he still insists I don't help
I will take it away and help him against his will. Once I have
completed the task he is happy & thanks me. I re-affirm with his to
ask for help, he says OK Mommy but I don't thinks he understands my
words. Some frustrations lead to an all out meltdown & there are
times he will go & hide which scares me now that he does it in
public now. I get nervous that he will get lost because he is hiding
under something. If Grandma babysits he refuses to leave her house.
Going to Grandmas for babysitting is still new as they have been in
Maine about 2yrs before us.
Kyle's food issues have gotten more
severe & confusing. I know he does not like to eat meat but one day
he will go to bed for not eating at least some of the meat then two
weeks late he will gobble it up in no time. They had been cooked exactly
the same way so i don't know what the difference is. Kyle now needs a
schedule to tell him what is coming next & with the food pictures I
am going to use the first & then board to get more food into him.
Donald
is too smart for his own good. He thinks that he has outsmarted me but
he doesn't. I told him that he may know more facts about some topics
than me but I have common sense so he won't get anything by me. The
sooner he realizes that the better his life will be. He needs to get the
message, Mom ALWAYS knows when he is lying & when he has done
something he shouldn't have without seeing him do it.
All of them -
hitting each other, I am so done with all the hitting. One will hit the
other and make him cry then the other hits back & the first comes
running to me crying. Poor Karl will be crying, admit he hit first but
not understand why the both get a timeout. Donald will hit Karl for no
reason, not hard but to annoy Karl. I get upset because it is usually in
the head or face. Donald keeps saying his mind told him to do it, that
excuse does not fly with me so Donald has had very little Facebook time
these past few month.
Tonight I had to sort out pictures schedules
for the boys. I had tears in my eyes that I have to do this again. Now I
need to do it for two as K&K have different schedules. Tomorrow
make copies of some pictures & get K&K use to using the
schedule. Donald is creating his own schedule because he loses track of
time on ALL tasks. i am hoping that since he is doing the schedule, he
will follow it. Monday Karl starts school so I am hoping that it will
help get all boys back on track.
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