The is a lot of controversy over Joe Scarborough's comments about the
tragedy in Aurora. Just about every blog or article about the comments
had the following that is in blue.
"As
soon as I hear about this shooting, I knew who it was. I knew it was a
young, white male, probably from an affluent neighborhood, disconnected
from society — it happens time and time again. Most of it has to do with
mental health; you have these people that are somewhere, I believe, on
the autism scale," said Scarborough, whose son has Asperger's syndrome.
"I don't know if that's the case here, but it happens more often than
not. People that can walk around in society, they can function on
college campuses — they can even excel on college campuses — but are
socially disconnected."
I found it interesting that the following comments in red were left out of many blogs & articles.
"I
have a son with Asperger's who is loved by everybody in his family and
who is wonderful. But It is what it is for those who may not have a loving
family and a support group and may be a bit further along on the autism
spectrum.”
If you have read my previous blogs or know me
then you know that I do not always think or feel the same way as many in
the Autism Community. I tend to think out of the box and/or look at the
big picture of things said or done. When I first saw many posts with
anger about Joe's comments, I was angry by what I read. This lead me to
watch the video and I found that he had said more and I was not angry
anymore and I can agree with some of his comments. Please read on before
getting upset.
We all raise our children differently & we all
have different feelings about Autism and different techniques to help
our children. I embrace Autism, I am very strict, we are structured,
push my boys through the quirks & OCD behavior and lots of love. I
believe in balance in raising all my children and my boys are raised the
same way their NT sister was raised. Many feel I am wrong to discipline
the boys because they have Autism but I know it is helping them with
the reality of life and helping them understand the expectations of
Society. I do not allow Autism to be an excuse for bad behavior or for
meltdowns, they are taught to redirect and work through the meltdown. I
do this because the reality of it is that they would be fired from a job
for a meltdown. Now there are many parents who do not discipline or
discipline differently, there are parents that give there child anything
they want to keep them happy and there are parents that live in denial
and just push their child through life without helping them.
This
is where Joe's comments come from, now I do feel he could have chosen
better words, but his point is true. Children that have parents that go
through the motions, pushing the child with Autism to the side and just
gives them things to the child to keep him/her quiet are not getting
the love & support they need. Any child raised like this tends to
have anger issues and can be violent, if you add Autism to the situation
it will make things worse. Remember that that early intervention was
not used as often or at all as it is today and a young adult could be a
ticking time bomb. Now I do not know the shooter nor do I have an
opinion if he is on the spectrum, this blog is about Joe's comments and
how I can understand what he was trying to say even if his wording was
wrong.
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