As a Mom I have worried about my children but I did not lived in fear, as an Autism Mom, I worry and have a few fears, well that all changes this afternoon when Mr. Trump is sworn in. For the first time since I heard the word Autism 11 years ago, I have great fear for my sons future, for their freedom, education and protection from others. I have seen so much hate with this election, it scares me. BTW it is on both sides, not just one side.
While part if me wants to posts all of Trump's shortfalls to try to get others to understand why everyone needs to be concerned, I won't because it won't help. All the posts do is promote arguments, name calling and hate. While there have been times I was able to have healthy debates with Trump supporters as I tried to understand why they felt Trump was a good choice. Please note, I did try to understand, I searched, and searched trying to find one good plan of his that would give me a bit of hope that he will be a good President. Sadly most of my debates turned nasty from the other side, I was called things I would never even call my worst enemy. The worst part of that was some that I thought were my friends allowed it to happen. I am all for a healthy debate but the hate was too much for me.
The hate in this country is what is destroying America, THE HATE NEEDS TO STOP!!!
For 8 years I have watched many blame Obama for everything wrong in their life. It feels like America saw two different President Obama. For a long time I have been wondering how is it, so many see him so differently. Last night looking at many different post comments about the Obama's leaving the white house, it came to me. Most people see what they want to see, they understand their single view of the topic and refuse to acknowledge other possibilities. Not many have the ability to look at both sides and see the bigger picture. Maybe it is because of my upbringing, being so sick, having to be wallflower, and by being a survivor, I have a very different perspective on life, my views on topics are out of the box, hell most of the time I destroy the box. One of the big topics Trump supporters keep stating it is Obama's fault that there are so many mass shootings nowadays. I have read many arguments on this topic and read many reasons why everyone thinks it is Obama's fault and it seems many miss the fact that Obama was not holding the gun, therefore it is not his fault.
America also needs to face the fact that one person is not responsible for another's choice. I grew up in a house with parents that were prejudice towards others. Does that mean that I grew up being prejudice? Hell no, I grew up the direct opposite. I spent most of the first 4 years of my life in a hospital, I am a survivor of every form of abuse, I was molested by 2 different people for years before I was 8 and I was raped by a boyfriend at 17, do I blame my shortfalls on them, no. Do I blame them for things that go wrong in my life, no. It happened, it sucked and yes it is still hard to overcome some of the shit I went though but I do my best to be a good person. While my experiences left me with a lot of insecurities, it also left me with a very different perspective of life. I look for the best in life, I find the silver lining to the clouds, I own who I am and what I have done and do not blame anyone or anything for my decisions. Now what could be the silver lining of my childhood hell?? Easy, my perspective on life has helped me help my children. The roadblocks of so many illnesses have helped me realize that the diagnosis of Autism does not limit my sons future, it does not define who they are or that no matter what, they can and will be independent. No President, friend, foe or even my parents created who I am today. I created me by the choices I made in life, I am the one that is accountable for my actions, not the President, not my parents, me. I think that is something Society needs to understand, no one makes the choice for you, you make your own choices. In high school I drank, I drank a lot to try and hide from the hate and abuse form my mother. I was making a bad choice, many would say it was her fault, that telling me daily how ugly I was and how she hated me and wished she had aborted me would be a good reason to drink, but it wasn't. Then one day I was so depressed I drank a bottle of vodka in an hour, passed out and couldn't remember a thing the next day. After the hangover, I thought about how I felt, I knew I could not continue down that path so I made the decision that I would not drink when I am depressed. It can be hard at times but for the most part I have kept to that decision. Have I slipped up a couple of times? Yes I am human and I make mistakes but I hold myself accountable. Who I am today was not decided by the actions of others, it was because of the choices I have made, some good, some bad but in the end, I do not blame others, I just do the best I can to be a good person and to help others.
America also needs to face the fact that one person is not responsible for another's choice. I grew up in a house with parents that were prejudice towards others. Does that mean that I grew up being prejudice? Hell no, I grew up the direct opposite. I spent most of the first 4 years of my life in a hospital, I am a survivor of every form of abuse, I was molested by 2 different people for years before I was 8 and I was raped by a boyfriend at 17, do I blame my shortfalls on them, no. Do I blame them for things that go wrong in my life, no. It happened, it sucked and yes it is still hard to overcome some of the shit I went though but I do my best to be a good person. While my experiences left me with a lot of insecurities, it also left me with a very different perspective of life. I look for the best in life, I find the silver lining to the clouds, I own who I am and what I have done and do not blame anyone or anything for my decisions. Now what could be the silver lining of my childhood hell?? Easy, my perspective on life has helped me help my children. The roadblocks of so many illnesses have helped me realize that the diagnosis of Autism does not limit my sons future, it does not define who they are or that no matter what, they can and will be independent. No President, friend, foe or even my parents created who I am today. I created me by the choices I made in life, I am the one that is accountable for my actions, not the President, not my parents, me. I think that is something Society needs to understand, no one makes the choice for you, you make your own choices. In high school I drank, I drank a lot to try and hide from the hate and abuse form my mother. I was making a bad choice, many would say it was her fault, that telling me daily how ugly I was and how she hated me and wished she had aborted me would be a good reason to drink, but it wasn't. Then one day I was so depressed I drank a bottle of vodka in an hour, passed out and couldn't remember a thing the next day. After the hangover, I thought about how I felt, I knew I could not continue down that path so I made the decision that I would not drink when I am depressed. It can be hard at times but for the most part I have kept to that decision. Have I slipped up a couple of times? Yes I am human and I make mistakes but I hold myself accountable. Who I am today was not decided by the actions of others, it was because of the choices I have made, some good, some bad but in the end, I do not blame others, I just do the best I can to be a good person and to help others.
So to all those that want to blame Obama for mass shootings, stop! Put the blame where it belongs, the person holding the gun. They made the wrong choice and deserve to be punished for it. But you blaming Obama for what the shooter has done, is you making the choice to spread hate for Mr. Obama when Mr. Obama didn't even know the shooter. And you and others spreading hate for Mr. Obama is not resolving or proving anything, it is just creating more hate, so STOP!
Soon Mr. Trump will become my President, while my stomach is twisted with stress about it, I will not bash him, I will not put him down because I want the hate to stop. For everyone that does not support Mr. Trump, please do not act as many did towards Mr. Obama. No matter who is President, it is up to every individual to make the a decision - Do you want the hate to continue or do you want it to stop? If you see a post that upsets, you have three choices, spread hate, ignore it or look into how you can help those affected by the post. No ones controls your response but you!! I for one will be ignoring or finding ways to help, but if I do see hateful comments I may reply with -
#TheHateNeedsToStop
Soon Mr. Trump will become my President, while my stomach is twisted with stress about it, I will not bash him, I will not put him down because I want the hate to stop. For everyone that does not support Mr. Trump, please do not act as many did towards Mr. Obama. No matter who is President, it is up to every individual to make the a decision - Do you want the hate to continue or do you want it to stop? If you see a post that upsets, you have three choices, spread hate, ignore it or look into how you can help those affected by the post. No ones controls your response but you!! I for one will be ignoring or finding ways to help, but if I do see hateful comments I may reply with -
#TheHateNeedsToStop
